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Speak Softly and Carry a Big (DO52) Stick
Ninety-nine percent of the time what I need from the weekly DO52™ verb I select is different than what I think I need.
Most of the time, what I think I need is more of what I already have.
That’s because pursuing more of what I already have is affirming and less scary than being presented with a void that needs filling.
Like last week, when I drew the verb “time” from my set of DO52™ sticks. I love the topic of time, because I think I’m really good at it.
I’m good at managing it,
saving it, and
Drawing the verb “time” didn’t intimidate me at all. In fact, the opposite. I leapt into the week ready to find more of what I already have – strategies or factoids I could add to my already impressive box of time management tools.
I learned about the difference between managing time and managing attention.
Two people, coincidentally, recommended reading Daniel Pink’s book titled, When.
And, I topped off my week by waking up extra early Sunday morning, so I could max out my day – ticking tasks off my list like it was an Olympic sport.
Time was on my side and I was busy doing more of what I’m already good at.
What I wasn’t prepared to manage was my twelve year old son who wanted to play Pickle Ball.
He asked at noon
Then again at 2:oo
And again at 4:30 when I was zipping out the door to run an errand (so I could knock another item off my to-do list).
I sat in the parking lot of Target, just me, myself, and the soft voice carrying a big DO52™ stick and whispering in my ear:
“Managing time is not what you need, Claudia. Spending time is what you need. Jack will not be young forever and he will not always choose you has his playmate. Time is fleeting and before you know it, he’ll be off to college and you’ll be wandering around your empty house searching for ways to spend the time you’ve so miserly saved and protected.
So I drove home, scooped up Jack and off we went to play Pickle Ball.
We had the time of our lives and on the way home I thanked him for the invitation to spend time with him.
E.B. White got it right when he said: “I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”