Dear Patti, Your thoughtful gesture from last week affirms so much of what I believe about people who shine. People who shine choose gratitude People who shine understand little things make a difference and, therefore,... Read More »
You Might Not Be Happy, But Are You Proud?
There is a difference between being happy with ourselves and being proud of ourselves. The better we get at distinguishing the two, the sooner we can silence the inner critic and find a little peace.
Here are a few of my countless examples :
I’m not happy with the size of my legs, but I’m proud of the way I get to the gym five mornings a week to exercise.
I’m not happy with the way I yelled at Matthew and Jack yesterday, but I am proud of how I circled back around to apologize.
I’m not happy with how little I get to see my ninety-three year old father, but I am proud of the effort I make to let him know how frequently I think about him.
It’s far more productive to focus on whether you’re proud of your choices than it is to focus on how happy you are with your circumstances.
Choices we have control over. Circumstances, sometimes not.
If your Inner Critic wants to be heard then tell it to forgo conversation about why you aren’t happier and ask it to join you in brainstorming actions you can take to feel prouder.