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The Interesting Thing about Extremes
Extremes often give me cause to stop and think.
That was the case this week while facilitating a three-hour leadership workshop for eleven teachers and students in a local high school. To get them warmed up, we circled the room with a series of rapid fire questions. The early questions were designed to be low stakes.
Favorite flavor of ice cream
Last movie you saw
Favorite song on your play list.
Then came slightly more revealing questions:
Who, dead or alive, would you love to have dinner with?
What’s your greatest fear? And,
Describe the last mistake you made.
As you might expect with eleven participants, a couple of school sponsors, and three facilitators in the room, responses to the questions were quite varied.
Until we got to one question in particular and then the answers were unanimous. Age, sex, position in school – none of it seemed to have bearing.
When given the option of a big network of friends or something small and intimate, the group unanimously voted for friendship circles that were small and intimate.
Participant’s responses were immediate, decisive, and unapologetic.
It could be coincidence; the simple difference between introverts and extroverts, but I’m not so sure.
I’m wondering if it isn’t a reaction to the pendulum of our lives swinging in the opposite direction; a response to the effects of social media?
Maybe our unanimous response is an agreement that having five close friends is more rewarding than 500 Facebook Friends.
Or that long conversations are more fulfilling than the 280-character posts we find on Twitter.
Or, the fleeting and filtered experiences we find on Snap Chat are not nearly as meaningful as the permanent and unfiltered ones we can have with our inner circle.
Extremes always leave me wondering.
How about you, what do you think?