Today is installment number two in a four-part series on the role self-awareness plays in helping us shine brighter. The focus of today is Habits. Last week Katie asked me a series of questions during... Read More »
Celebrate. Or Not.
I am a little embarrassed to admit what I am about to share, but in the spirit of believing that each of us is on our own journey to shine, I decided it was time to share what's been going on for the past few weeks. Maybe you will be able to relate in some small way in which case maybe my sharing will get you rethinking your own situation.
Five weeks ago I pulled the verb “Celebrate” as my DO52™ verb for the week. The object of DO52™ is to have the chosen verb compel you to do that which you believe will help you shine brighter.
I saw the verb and immediately believed it was nudging me to lead the way in bringing closure to a work deal that, once closed, would bring great cause for celebration. The agreement seemed all but fait accompli, with only minor details to be worked out and the thankless job of paperwork to be waded through.
Still, I was allowing the process to drag on, so I decided to use the verb as my impetus to take charge. When the week ended without closure I decided I would wait another week before selecting a new verb.
And then another week passed without closure or cause for celebration, so I dug my heels in and affirmed my decision not to budge off of this verb until the deal was closed and I could celebrate. DAMMIT.
And then another
And at the end of that last week, I got notification that the very deal I thought was fait accompli actually isn't and that my cause for celebration might never be coming.
In the meantime a lot of other reasons for celebration have passed me by.
Successful meetings and workshops.
Time spent visiting my mother and father in New York
and a whole slew of other things.
I missed them, though, because I was so sure and so intent on one thing and one thing only being able to bring me the kind of happiness that I believed was worth celebrating.
Two things were discovered through this lost opportunity: (1) that I robbed myself of a whole lot of moments by refusing to see all of life's simple causes for celebration and, (2) that maybe we shouldn't leave cause for celebration up to someone else and, instead, we should get out there and create our own.
That's what I'm doing this week, creating my own cause for celebration. And maybe I'll use the two verbs I drew this week to help:
PROD and SEE