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It's That Time...

There is something particularly appropriate about our High-low-aha ritual in the month of November.

Maybe it's that November is a time for reflection and giving thanks, in much the same way that sharing highs, lows, and ahas requires us to reflect (and, with a little luck, give thanks too).

Maybe it's that November is the month when family and friends gather in community and spend time catching up - much the way we do on the 18th day of each month.

Or, maybe it's recognition that rituals matter more now than they ever have.  At a time when the pace of life seems to be moving faster and so much emphasis is placed on our differences, Thanksgiving and Highlowaha are nice reminders of two things:

First, even busy people stop one day a year to eat turkey and visit with family. They do it in the same way we stop to visit with members of our community one day each month.

Second, most people find their own special way to celebrate Thanksgiving. They might gather around a table eating something vegetarian or huddle around a t.v. watching a football game. Either way, Thanksgiving makes it possible for friends and family to interpret the holiday however they like and still know that they are participating. The same is true of Highlowaha. Share whatever you like, knowing that we are glad you decided to participate.

I will get the ball rolling, so that any novices joining us for the first time can figure out how to join in:

High: Attending a baby shower with friends that I love being around; celebrating my 12th wedding anniversary and feeling every bit as lucky to be married to Richard today as I did 12 years ago; visiting my parents in New York and seeing snow; book time with Matthew and Jack; Carmel Salted Mochas from Starbucks; feeling like I am getting in a groove with the House of Shine; and really having to scratch my head to think of any lows. 

Low: My eyesight is going and my office is a mess.

Aha: Someone complimented me the other day by saying, "What you are good at doing is making other people good at what they do."  I thought it was a really nice compliment, but I also realized  - "Aha, I love that job description!"

Your turn.  Visit us in the Comment Section and tell us about the best thing(s) that have happened in the last month, the worst thing(s) that have happened in the past month, and something that you have learned.

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    Posted @ 11/18/2011 10:02 AM by Heather
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    High: Lily's parent/teacher conference, watching her start to read is SO much fun! My new staff member starting at work (she's going to be great!) and getting approval for a NEW position to help with the case load (meaning I'll be going to the national conference to recruit). Going on a "date night" with Claudia last night to see "Ben & Jerry", they were great and the company was fantastic!

    Low: Travel, travel and more travel. Bal's been gone for about 4 weeks and leaves again the Monday after Thanksgiving, I leave before he gets home on the 30th to head to a conference, then he leaves on the 4th before I get home and will be gone until the 9th. Sigh...the new normal.

    Aha: My baby (Lily) will be in kindergarten next year. We are exploring the charter school route and are really excited about the doors it may open for her. Unfortunately it is a random draw lottery and we won't know until mid-December if she gets in. Everyone send us some "Draw our name" vibes!

    First their motto is "Shine through Life!" Are you kidding?!? And below I'm posting their pledge so you can see just why we think this school is the one for us:

    I pledge
    To be a responsible student
    To strive rigorously to achieve my goals
    To reflect upon my mistakes and learn
    from them.

    I pledge
    To recognize the inherent dignity in all human beings
    To show proper deference to authority
    To use responsibly my own authority
    To act in a manner appropriate to setting and circumstances
    To sustain a positive attitude
    To be a responsible steward of my environment
    To maintain an honest relationship with my community,
    both personally and academically.


    For me, mediocrity is not an option.
    Only excellence will do.
    Who I am has value.
    What I think has value.
    Who I will become is invaluable to the world.

    Posted @ 11/18/2011 10:23 AM by Claudia
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    Wow Heather, A seemingly GREAT looking place for Lily to attend school. I will certainly join the long line of people who send good vibes your way.

    The best news is that you and Bal embody those values, so even if she doesn't get a slot, she is bound to learn every one of those lessons just by virtue of living in your household.

    It's a win-win.

    Posted @ 11/18/2011 10:30 AM by Cheryl
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    That is incredible, Heather. Pick Lily! Pick Lily! I love you Aha Claudia. So true.

    Highs: Ditto on the baby shower! I miss you ladies. So good to spend some quality time together. More posts at House of Shine. Too much good loving to even know where to start! Drew's birthday. Good health. Fun happy hour with coworkers. The Art of Love Teleseminar- great way to start winding up my year of love. Fun dinner lat night with Chris's bosses and co-workers. Another wonderful 30 days with the love of my life. Have I told y'all how loved I feel? :)

    Lows: Some people at work really get on my nerves and I need to really channel that negative energy into something good. There is good in all. There is good in all. Deep breaths. Happy thoughts. There is good in all. I'm not a holiday person and I'm really hoping I can keep the holiday blues at bay this season.

    Aha: Did you know that women are happiest when we are able to give to others? But, we will do it to the detriment of our own happiness. Everytime you give to another you use a hormone called Oxytocin. It's important to keep your oxytocin levels up and you replinish by stopping and do some things for yourself - manicures, pedicures, get your hair done, shop, read, whatever your thing is- do it! You'll be happier and your families will be happier.

    Posted @ 11/18/2011 11:20 AM by Claudia
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    Now that's an example of a great "aha", Cheryl.

    Thanks for sharing. Maybe this weekend I will generate some Oxytocin this weekend while beginning some Christmas shopping. One for them, one for me. One for them, one for me! Ha. Ha.

    Posted @ 11/18/2011 11:27 AM by Cheryl
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    I know right! I just justified all my pedicures! Well, I've got to build my oxytocin up! It's detrimental to OUR well being! :)

    Posted @ 11/18/2011 4:19 PM by Karlie
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    HIGH: GIrl time with friends who mean so much and I miss!; Sophie's parent/teacher conference and where she is headed; her independence and insight on life and her world; parents in town for the holidays; love my job and the people I work with; Hubby starting his own law firm!; health
    LOW: Hubby's law firm partner stealing - again (ended that); still nursing a sprained ankle from 30WALK;
    AHA: I was told by one of my district managers that I have the ability to put everything they think as negative and turn it positive side up! I liked that!
    Claudia' - your aha is so true! Love you all HOS! Happy Thanksgiving - I am thankful for you all and being a part of something so good!

    Posted @ 11/20/2011 10:10 PM by chaotickristi
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    high : paying off my car AND buy new digital camera
    low : realizing that work does not appreciate me
    aha : my value is mine, even if work wont see it (and I will get to quit there in another six months or so)

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